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  • Sometimes all you can do is bring your own light
    Anxiety, Choose your focus, Featured, Head into discomfort, Living in the middle

    Sometimes all you can do is bring your own light

    April 10, 2026

     I’m going off to college and I’m afraid that I’m not going to like my dorm or my…


  • Somewhere between good and bad is where life actually happens
    A little goes a long way, Choose your focus, Featured, Just Be, Let’s rethink that, Living in the middle

    Somewhere between good and bad is where life actually happens

    April 10, 2026

    I’m graduating from college and I’m happy, but I’m also sad. I got offered a job in the…


  • Defend against defensiveness without losing your integrity
    Defensiveness, Integrity, Making assumptions, Mean people

    Defend against defensiveness without losing your integrity

    March 27, 2026

    I keep encountering highly defensive people, people that seem to take everything I say out of context and…


  • The power is yours: You don’t choose how you’re treated, but you do choose what comes next
    Be Kind, Choose You, Choose your focus, Integrity, Let’s rethink that, Mean people

    The power is yours: You don’t choose how you’re treated, but you do choose what comes next

    March 20, 2026

    I’ve been targeted by bullies more than I care to admit.  Even my parents kind of bullied me. …


  • A Little Goes a Long Way: Navigating Mean Girl Energy with Compassion, Discernment, and Strength
    Be Kind, Choose You, Choose your focus, Compassion, Integrity, Let’s rethink that, Mean people, Take care of your self, Trust yourself

    A Little Goes a Long Way: Navigating Mean Girl Energy with Compassion, Discernment, and Strength

    March 13, 2026

    I seem to keep encountering mean girl energy, everywhere I look.  It’s making me feel crazy.  What can…


  • What I ended up believing about God: From driftwood to shimmering threads
    Faith & Religion, Featured, Let’s rethink that, Trust yourself

    What I ended up believing about God: From driftwood to shimmering threads

    March 6, 2026

    Mom, are you religious?  I wish I was religious.  I think it would make life so much easier. …


  • Estrangement was the outcome, not the decision
    Authenticity, Choose You, Featured, Integrity, Take care of your self, Trying to be perfect

    Estrangement was the outcome, not the decision

    February 11, 2026

    I am angry with my family/friend and wanting to cut them off.  I know that you cut off…


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Cary Rinken

Hi, my name is Cary RInken and I respond to questions I’ve been asked and questions I’ve been asking for years. I hope you enjoy!

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